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You know what I hear all the time?
“I organized my closet last month and it already looks like a disaster again.”
“I bought all the containers and labelled everything, but we’re still leaving stuff everywhere.”
“I spent an entire weekend organizing, and it lasted maybe three days.”
And every time I hear this, I know exactly what happened.
It’s not that they didn’t try hard enough. It’s not that they’re lazy or messy or undisciplined.
It’s that they organized for how they think they should live—not for how they actually live.
The Difference Between Organizing That Works and Organizing That Doesn’t
Here’s what most organizing advice gets wrong.
It tells you to create the “perfect” system. Color-coded. Labeled. Everything in its designated spot. Beautiful matching containers. A place for everything and everything in its place.
And in theory? That sounds great.
In practice? It falls apart the moment real life happens.
Because here’s the thing about those perfect systems: they’re designed for perfect people who do things perfectly.
And I don’t know about you, but I’ve never met anyone like that.
The systems that actually stick? They’re designed for how you actually use the space.
Not how you wish you used it. Not how other people use it. Not how Instagram says you should use it.
How you actually, realistically, consistently use it.
Work With Your Habits, Not Against Them
Let me give you an example.
Let’s say you come home every day and put your keys on the kitchen counter. You’ve been doing this for years. It’s automatic. You don’t even think about it.
Now, most organizing advice would tell you: “Stop putting your keys on the counter. Hang them on a hook by the door like a civilized person.”
And you try. You really do. For about three days.
Then one day you come home with groceries and your hands are full and you just set the keys on the counter because that’s what your body wants to do. And then you do it again the next day. And the next.
And you feel like you failed.
But here’s what actually failed: the system.
Because a system that requires you to fundamentally change an ingrained habit? That’s not a system. That’s wishful thinking.
You know what works better? Putting a small bowl on the kitchen counter specifically for your keys.
You’re still putting your keys on the counter. But now they have a boundary. They’re not spreading across the whole surface. They’re contained. They’re easy to find.
And more importantly—you’ll actually use it.
That’s the difference.
Stop Trying to Be Someone You’re Not
This applies to everything.
If you take your shoes off the second you walk in the door, put a basket right there. Don’t force yourself to walk them to the closet. You won’t. I promise.
If mail always lands on the kitchen table, create a designated spot on that table for mail. Don’t try to train yourself to immediately file it in the office. That’s not realistic when you’re juggling kids and dinner and everything else.
If you get dressed in the bathroom, keep some clothes in the bathroom. I don’t care if it’s “supposed” to go in the closet. If that means you’re leaving clothes on the bathroom counter every morning, the closet system isn’t working.
The goal isn’t to change who you are. The goal is to create systems that work for who you are.
How to Actually Make This Work
Okay, so how do you figure out what systems will actually work for you?
Start by paying attention to where things naturally want to land.
For the next few days, just notice. Don’t try to fix anything yet. Just watch.
Where do you actually put your bag when you come home?
Where do the kids’ backpacks end up?
Where does clean laundry sit before it gets put away?
Where do papers pile up?
Those spots? That’s where your systems need to be.
Not where you think they should be. Where they actually are.
Then, instead of fighting those patterns, work with them.
Put a hook where the bag lands. Put a basket where the backpacks drop. Put a designated chair or basket where the laundry waits. Put a tray where the papers pile up.
You’re not changing your behavior. You’re just giving it boundaries.
Why Boundaries Are Everything
This is the real secret to organizing that sticks: boundaries.
Not perfection. Not discipline. Boundaries.
When something has a clear, defined boundary, it stops spreading.
Keys go in this bowl—not all over the counter.
Shoes go in this basket—not across the entire entryway.
Mail goes in this tray—not on every surface in the kitchen.
That one change—creating clear boundaries for where things are allowed to be—makes maintenance so much easier.
Because you’re not constantly chasing stuff around. You’re not constantly deciding where things should go. The boundary does that work for you.
Permission to Be Realistic
Here’s what I want you to take away from this:
You don’t need to be more disciplined. You don’t need to try harder. You don’t need to be a different person.
You need systems that work for the person you actually are.
And that might look different from what you see on Instagram. It might look different from your friend’s house. It might look different from what organizing books tell you to do.
That’s okay.
The only system that matters is the one you’ll actually use.
If You Want Some Structure
If you’re reading this and thinking “okay, I want to start creating better systems, but I need help figuring out where to start,” I’ve got something for you.
I’m running a free 30-Day Decluttering Challenge throughout January. One small task per day. One specific area. All designed to help you create systems that actually work for your life.
Download your free calendar, follow along on the blog and social media, and tackle one area at a time.
No perfection required. Just progress.
And If You Need More Than a Challenge
If you’re looking around your house and thinking “I need someone to actually help me figure out what systems will work for my specific life,” that’s exactly what I do.
At Just Organized by Taya, I don’t create cookie-cutter systems. I watch how you actually use your space, and then I create systems that work with your habits—not against them.
Real systems for real life. Not Instagram perfection.
Book a consultation or call 832-271-7608. Let’s create systems that actually stick.
Working with Taya and her team is easy. You can book an appointment easily on her website, or contact her directly at 832-271-7608
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